Marriage red flags–all of us have marriage issues, but how do you know if an issue crosses the line into dangerously weird territory?
I receive many emails from women in crisis, and today, on Top 10 Tuesday, I thought I’d share 10 marriage and sex red flags that really shouldn’t be ignored.
Often we don’t realize when something is off, because we’re new at this whole marriage thing, and most of us don’t share personal and intimate details with our friends. So how can you know if something that worries you is actually a red flag for something quite serious?
What is a Sex or Marriage Red Flag?
It means that this is a situation which will not get better by you being nicer, by you being more understanding, by you trying to talk it through with him, or by you being more patient.
This is something which is a serious issue that will likely require a third party, like a trained counselor or a pastor, to help you.
If you ignore it, your marriage will only get worse, and your husband will only fall deeper and deeper into sin or more and more away from God and his family (depending on what the issue is).
In this post, I’m not talking about abuse–though this, too, will not get better on their own and will need a third party. Here’s a post specifically for information on emotionally destructive relationships. I want to talk more about sexual red flags in marriage.
These problems represent an issue that your husband has–not something that you have caused, and so you cannot make it better. You can, however, make it more likely that he will get the help he needs by taking it seriously. And that is the most loving thing you can do.
For information on how to involve a third party, read my post on being a spouse instead of an enabler, or check out the book Boundaries in Marriage.
My heart aches for women in these situations, because they often are so taken back with surprise that their husbands are acting this way, and they truly don’t know what to do. I’m sorry that some of these seem so extreme, but I’ve had multiple emails about each of these types of situations, and I know that there are women dealing with these things. So let’s get it all out in the open today!
1. If your husband says he enjoys sex, but he never wants to make love–Red Flag!
Men, in general, have a higher sex drive than women do. That doesn’t mean that if you have a higher sex drive than your husband that there is necessarily something wrong with him.
But if your husband never wants to make love, even though he says he enjoys it, then that is a red flag. Even if his sex drive is lower than yours, he should want to make love at least sometimes. Here’s a more in-depth series on what to do if your husband doesn’t want sex–and when this really is a red flag.forklift certification education in the new normal to start up crowdfunding websites for education enterprise roseville angel startup ceo entrepreneur basic life support certification enterprise 12 passenger van iosh managing safely skills of a successful entrepreneur world entrepreneur day 2022 up board 2022 bseodisha education course skinners brewery crowdfunding class of 2022 vision in entrepreneurship google for entrepreneurs black entrepreneurs day startup 3 sap fico course rally crowdfunding crowdcube citymapper entrepreneur instagram science education apna startup nus courses entrepreneur awards bjmc lean start up cscs course startup market lifestyle entrepreneur social impact crowdfunding real estate crowdfunding returns characteristic of entrepreneur best crowdfunding sites for startups development of women entrepreneurship start up fund teacher style box acls course method of teaching impact guru ngo 4 types of entrepreneurs